Men appear to have this strong element of less emotional display than women except in cases where a man is really deeply in love and they express it in different ways.
As per in times of struggling in life, a woman will burst out to complain how things are to everyone while a man will keep it with hopes tomorrow will be better and focus more on working to achieve their dreams.
Now, let’s dive down to why a man will leave you even after you have been with him in his hard times. We will use the movie most women still misunderstood to explain this: Acrimony.
Can it be said it human nature to make a wrong turn before finding the right path? Can a certain race of women be perceived to be stereotype when they gets mad and emasculate men? Do we lose a bit of ourselves becoming the person our partners want us to be? Do we get caught up in our self-preservation or ambition that we forget the needs of others? A deep controversial movie it is.
Acrimony simply means a state of “had I know” which will be fueled by memories, resentment, pain and very much also anger for decisions and actions mostly bad which has resulted in your present state.
Respect: A man will leave you when he gets all he wants in life and marry another woman when you treat him without respect at the time he was poor. In Acrimony, you see P. Henson respecting this man and this man loved her even after his first mistake but towards to end, she began to disrespect him hence it was very easy for him to leave even after she had sold her mother’s house for his project.
Show off: Most women show off their wealth in the faces of their men; only a man who loves you will react immediately and the one who don’t will praise and pet you just to get what he wants. Beware of men who are very comfortable with eating your money without sharing with you when they have little. P. Henson will always show and try to tell the man she was the one powering the house. She will shout and the man will promise things will be better. A built up resentment was ongoing.
Friends & Relations with negative influence: A man will never be safe with a woman who has so much depend on the advice from family and friends who have bad reputations. Robert was a man of vision but she couldn’t hang on the mission. There were so many “what ifs”. She made the step of marriage against her families’ will, sometimes we should look out for ourselves first before family because only one in a good condition can be of value to a family.
When you don’t believe in his dream: Robert was a man of vision. He had faith in what he was doing and knew it was going to work. It’s difficult to share a dream and vision but it’s easy to relate it and up to the hearer to believe even up to death hence, men will say he was a man of vision. She never believed in his dreams rather was forcing him to go and find a job. Don’t ever force a man to do anything, he will never flourish in, especially those with great vision. Most of my ex had told me, go find a job and I know I am not good at working for people, I have a dream to pursue and in most cases I leave relationships that put strain on me. I’d prefer to sleep hungry and smile at my future than sleep filled by my woman for a minute of disarray. Every failed husband was because a wife never believed. One is to believe the other is to support. If you support without believe he won’t succeed. If you believe without support, he won’t succeed. There must be an equilibrium. The other woman believed and supported.
Allowing him keep friendship with his Exs who knew them very well: The only greatest mistake P. Henson made was allowing her husband maintain some level of connection with his female friend. Women are very smart and men are very foolish. A man only sees and honors what makes him feels like a king. Robert will be a fool to go back to P. Henson after been supported, respected and revered by another woman. It’s not cheating. It’s natural phenomena with men.
Aggressive: A man will never be in a lifetime commitment with an aggressive woman. P. Henson was always aggressive.
Your family members: One bitter truth is, your family members don’t like you if you are not supporting them in a way. Cut out their food supply and you will know who they are. Not everyone can see at the same elevation and P. Henson’s family couldn’t. Everyone is for himself except a family that is rooted in God’s laws. Look out for yourself first before family because only one in a good condition can be of value to a family.
Short term availability: IF you show some signs of been there for a short period, he will leave you for a woman who will be there for a long term. Do not be a temporary fix for a long term goal. Always see and follow through the bigger picture. This has stagnated many marriages and is currently holding back my singles in this day and age because their standard of life or dream hasn’t been fulfilled by the personalities they’re coming across which can be due to many factors which isn’t the point of this write up.
Lack of support: I have left a girl because she doesn’t share my Facebook posts, you she was a sweet girl and that was 2020 February before the COVID-19 lockdown in Nigeria. She chatted me why did I ghost her after she has introduce me to her mother. I told her because you don’t share my post. She laughed and said, do you share my post. Most men get fired up when they see you wear a t-shirt showing their business logo, see you use their ideas as profile picture, see you make a review on their businesses, tell your friends about their businesses etc. You may think it’s lame but you are establishing your stand in his life, that which he can not erase.
Acrimony was a simple case of the grass is not always greener on the side but where you water it if you’re persistent as it is stated in every marriage vow “…for richer or poorer till death do us part” which she took literally did after she divorced him.
Listen, no matter how wealthy you will become, a man’s one minute breakthrough will change your life for ever.
There will be mixed opinions because we all come from different backgrounds, and so therefore your orientation and perceptions (versions) of the story will differ. But we can always agree to disagree.
Credit: Samuel (5% of the work)